Chaos chaos, go away,
I have no time to come and play-
you have left your shoes of filth and dirt
on my brand new sexy holiday skirt.
I cook and I clean
I’m grumpy and mean
Today- I am done
It’s no longer fun.
Alas, I know better—
Where’s that Go getter
—I used to be?
Where’s the harmony?
More harmony?! …better make that a double,
Because my head and house are in trouble.
My Grace has been put to the test
—Damn this House-Mess Paralysis!
I am surrounded by mess and I don’t know where to start!
It’s as if each room in this house pulled an all nighter and drunkenly vomited on itself. I practice tools that keep me grounded and connected to the bigger picture of life and the Now. Yet, today… I am struggling.
Chaos and disorganization EVERYWHERE… Christmas is coming … and just because I got the memo (thanks Target for your Lego Xmas booth before Thanksgiving) doesn’t mean I am prepared, much less excited about it. Mike and I are about to remodel the entire 1st floor, to include the kitchen, in less than 30 days… and I am KINDA freaking out; which makes me feel sad, Scroogey and ungrateful-and yet here I am, full of angst.
In attempts to hold on to my Grace, I fear I am strangling the life-force out of it instead.
I truly believe that our homes are SACRED spaces; our bodies are SACRED spaces. We should only invite what nurtures and feeds our soul.
This is a practice that I have been teaching others; How to bring themselves and their spaces into spiritual harmony through clear intentions and actions. Somewhere along the journey- I have let my own knowledge slip and have not been practicing what I preach.
If I am dancing like a whirling dervish right now- I know I am not alone in my crimson skirt, spastically spinning my way down the halls. With the end of the year holiday pressure we pile upon ourselves, comes a burnt out, hot mess of a Mama. Which is no good for anyone! We must remember to put on our “air masks” first or the whole plane goes down, right?
In 2011 alone, my fervent spending contributed to the 1.2 TRILLION dollars American consumers spent on “non-essential stuff” according to the US Department of Commerce. Seriously?! 1.2 Trillion dollars of crap we don’t need or really want?! Oh my dear ones, what a cluttered house we have created. What do we do with all these “had to have” non-essentials? I bet you would never guess what the hottest commercial realestate segment has been for the past 40 years— The self storage industry! 1 in 10 of us haul our “too much for my house but had to have it while QVC was in the final countdown with a bonus gift—stuff into one of those containers and pay someone monthly to safe keep that very stuff we may want back someday. Yikes! That can NOT be my answer. I will dive deeper into the spirit sucking energy drain that builds when we don’t treat our homes as sacred spaces in another post. For now, we need to deal with the task at hand.
I KNOW how to clean my messy-ass house. I know I need to sort and toss and organize and purge, and yet there is something Paralyzing when it gets this bad.
The grace guru within is telling me to be okay with where I am and to congratulate myself for coming to acknowledge that I have too much crap. The other, practical, old world mother warrior is rolling her eyes at my whining, clicking her tongue and muttering, “First world problems Girly!”
My overwhelmed, wide hearted women, what do we do when that black hole comes to claim our creativity, our sexy, our sanity —our heart? We get that sh*t back, thats what. #CHMPFREE
Ok- so where do we start? How do I begin when I have gotten stuck at the beginning? We start with Google, of course.
Wait! Before, we google we have to put out the intention so we receive the right nugget of advice or guidance and our google moment doesn’t become a “stay-cation of procrastination.”
I close my eyes, take a deep grounding breath and as I release it, I ask: “Universe, please offer me presently actionable —next steps in a way that I will understand what to do.” And so it is —Pressing Enter! ….and BOOM!
Cue angels, parting clouds! Carly the Mommy, I love you and your words, your understanding and advice. Please take a moment to check out her fantastic blog post with her detailed tips on how to tackle the clutter.
She SO gets it! and has the cure for what I call House Mess Paralysis, (HPM… my advertisement is forthcoming 😉
Carly says, “start with one thing…” I can do that. I can do one thing. If that doesn’t mean that I have to think about the kitchen remodel, or the unwrapped Christmas gifts still in their amazon.com boxes, then the answer is yes. I can find the home of that one thing.
So that worked for a while and then I hit a wall and became paralyzed again…Confronted by the thought “…but the home of the “one thing” will be changing soon. Maybe I shouldn’t put it there” is creeping in.
Yikes, moving to Carly’s phase #2 Phone a Friend Approach.
I call Nikitha, my creatively gifted, entrepreneurial soul sister, who is a self proclaimed Chronic House Mess Paralysis (CHMP) sufferer. After sympathizing, we committed to to move each other forward in our organization and purging. We will be going to each others house and acting as a guide. She speaks my eclectic design language and has the same mission of defining a home as a sacred place for the things that nourish and love us. In fact, during our conversation about our CHMP, she came up with this amazing quote,
“If it doesn’t feed your soul, it’s gotta GO!”
So, I have my Sister from another Mister’s coming over tomorrow at 9 am sharp. No kids or hubby’s, just Nikitha, our fur-babies and a whole lotta House-Mess-Paralysis.
Knowing we are in this together is uplifting and I am excited to share with you how we move through the mess and our resistance to change so we can become CHMP free!
In the meantime, I invite you to be a part of the CHMP liberation! Are you ready to LET IT GO? Great!
Set your intention: First, please sit down and take 5 minutes to breathe. Focus on how you feel when you are in a clean, clutter free space. Then tell God(sourse)/Universe/The Divine that you are ready to release what you no longer need and are asking for support in creating your sacred space. This is the most important step. Setting your intention, but it must be followed by ACTION! Once you are done with that exercise, immediately follow Carly’s advice and, “start with one thing.” If you know that won’t work then skip straight to tactic #2 and phone a friend. It is important who you choose. It should be someone who is kind, supportive AND action-minded. You have to set a clear intention on releasing the things you no longer need in your life that are cluttering your sacred spaces (and causing bouts of insanity ;).
The action can be little bites: Don’t discount the little moments. Those little action steps, every day is the authenticity Jo Packham spoke of in our interview. “You actually have to show up and do the hard work.” she said. Those words count here too. Show up for yourself.
Set a goal: How are you going to practice Carly’s “just one thing” at a time tactic? Is it a 5 minute timer set to tackle a slice of your laundry room? Committing de -cluttering just 1 drawer a day? Or are you a warrior who will forgo that Ugly sweater party and tackle an entire room Saturday night? I also believe that we can not receive what we ask for if there is no space for what we desire to manifest. Let’s make some space!
Use Nikitha’s quote, “If it doesn’t feed your soul, it’s gotta go!” as a barometer of how to determine what to keep or discard. Grab two trash bags, one for Donate the other for, well, Trash. They should be by your side and ready to work. Don’t just leave them in the hallway when you are finished… follow through and take the trash out and walk the donate bag to your car to drop off. I am there with you- I SO get it! I know we can do this.
For those of you who have rolled your eyes and clucked your tongues as you have forged through this post thinking, ” Good grief! You should’ve never let your house get this messy in the first place!” or “Stop whining you are so very lucky to have too much stuff!” Thank you for reading this far and I would love to hear your tips on how you show up for your space everyday and keep things organized. How do you decipher what is allowed to come into your house so it doesn’t’ invite chaos? Do share in the comments. Be kind. Be helpful. I love learning new ways to grow and conquer.
I promise to show you my pictures of the shock and awe that is my CHMP, starting with this one below.
I will also update you on the journey Nikitha and I are on. I would LOVE to see your CHMP. Tag it #CHMP-GOTTAGO!
We can do this LMS Nation!
Laugh hard. Love strong. Live to serve.