When your 9 year old calls B.S. on you, challenging your Spiritual beliefs.


 

 

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As we sat around the table, eating dinner last night Jax asked me, ” What’s the deal with all this GOD STUFF?! Your, like SUPER religious now!”His smooth, soft, pre-man hands hovered over his head as he spoke. They drew the shape of a half dome in the air around us. Like the image of Jesus you see on all the traditional Hallmark Christmas cards.
Stunned into silence, I poured my attention all over him. Exploring his face, the little mouth that declared I am now “religious.” Why did hearing him say that bother me?
 “I haven’t dragged you to church or sat you down to read the Bible or anything! Do you mean Spiritual? I have always been this way…Spiritual, I mean.”
My words fell into the veggie lasagna, short of making it into his ears and into his heart. They bounced off the force-shield he had around him. Jax had anticipated my explanation taking its usual esoteric turn about humanity. About the Rising consciousness bursting forth, and our place in it. How we must do more than embrace the Rising, but push it forward as well.

“You ALWAYS talk about God blessings, Grace, and practicing Gratitude. None of that helps. None of that matters in making my life better.” Jax, age 9

“You ALWAYS talk about God blessings, Grace, and practicing Gratitude. None of that helps. None of that matters in making my life better.” Jax’s eyebrow raised, declaring authority over the matter at hand.
“The goal isn’t to take time out to pray. It is to BE in a constant state of prayer; To BE…connected to God-source. Always.” My words felt void of power, fluttering around the table like petals of a dying flower.
“That is IMPOSSIBLE when God never shows up to help me.” Jax replied as if it were the end of the conversation.
Mike dropped his head and became over interested in the green beans on his dinner plate. “Here it comes…” said the thought bubble over his head. Luke, Ziva and I looked at each other, wide-eyed. It was as if a founding member of your club cast his members jacket at your feet. WTF?! My mind was humming- teachable moment- teachable moment. How can I get him to remember another time when he didn’t feel like this?! What should I say or do next?? I had nothing! I went to a place of bruised ego. Defeated, I told him I could leave him out of our discussions about God, the Universe and our choices made within it. I would be mindful not to include him in our spiritual rituals. No more Morning Intention God Blessings. I could even leave him out of the 3 G’s before bed (Gratitude, Evening God Blessings and Goodnight protection prayer).
….not my best moment in reflecting compassion, whoops.

“What if God has been with you the whole time? Helping you live a better life? …Because She is always there, you don’t know what it is like to be without her.”

Luke broke the silence and asked Jax, “What if God has been with you the whole time? Helping you live a better life? …Because She is always there, you don’t know what it is like to be without her. Maybe, you should practice NOT connecting with God for a week and see what happens. Maybe, you life will get SUPER Crappy!” He revealed with the excitement of a Mad Scientist.
Whoa. They do listen. They do remember. They know how to find their own way. My lesson, Again: Lips together. It is not about me and having all the answers. Sometimes, it’s about leaning back and not leaning in so hard.
I have been “doubling down” since January. Fulfilling this need to Push out and not letting the tide Pull me back in. All ocean waves must leave the land and return to the sea. I am remembering too.
My friend and Acutonics teacher says, “Life is a Dance!” Sometimes that Dance takes you to a place of forgeting …and rediscovering ourselves in a whole new way.
May you open your heart and hear the music. Release your toes so they may tap to the beat of the Universe that always has your back. Even if you have decided that you’ve been doing this entire journey alone. Maybe you will find your own Luke, to remind you that those are not your foot prints. That you have been carried the whole time.
Laugh hard. Love strong. Live to serve.
Best!
Kimberly
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Our Bedtime Protection Prayer


Wildly vivid imaginations are the creative powerhouses that feed our souls. Our imaginations show us what is possible. What we can manifest if we dedicate our thoughts to something. From the vantage-point of a 9 year old, it can also keep you up at night with the chaotic possibilities…. like being POSITIVE that Stranger Things is not a Netflix original, but a real life documentary.

As soon as Luke could speak, he would share that he “saw things at night.” So we created this ritual prayer. Rituals are the purposeful practice of our inner magic. My kidlings are learning to harness theirs. When we recited the words, we would draw big circles around us with our arms, building a bubble of protection or a sleeping cocoon. Nothing but Love and Light could enter inside.

Listen to Jax read it to you here

Bedtime Protection Prayer

Love and Light within me

Love and Light around me

Love and Light inside me

Love and Light surround me.

May all God’s Love watch over me

and protect me as I sleep.

May my Guardian Angels and family and friends in Heaven,

watch over me

and protect me as I travel.

May I sleep

and grow happy, healthy and strong

and have peace of mind;

Amen.

 

It has since become a staple in our tribe. I pass it out to friends who complain of not sleeping well. Or to family members who are “too afraid of what lurks beyond the darkness.”

Soon after they claim the prayer ritual as their own, their nighttime sleep is transformed.

I printed it out so my kids are able to be independent in their practice when I am unable to tuck them into bed. They have it memorized, but it is comforting for them to hold the paper in their hands and settle into bed with it. Even after I have tucked them in, I sometimes see Jax staring at it. I wonder if he is pondering the verses… maybe just lamenting how weird his mom is… no doubt a mix of the two! 😉

Regardless, I say every night before I surrender to sleep. For me it is safety, like wrapping myself in a protective love blanket. I invite you to try it on; Tweak the verses to fit your personal magic. Build your sleep cocoon and fill it with the words of the prayer and your thoughts of gratitude.

If you try it, please share how it worked for you and what you change to make it yours. I love hearing how these tools work or don’t work. If you are looking for other tools to assist you in living a more spiritually connected and joyous life. Leave your comments below and let me know how I can help!

Laug hard. Love strong. Live to serve.

Best!

Kimberly Crawford

Download the printable PDF version:Protection prayer Protection prayer

Interview With Jo Packham: Exploring the connection between creativity, spirituality and your willingness to show up and do the work.


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Creator and editor-in-chief of Where Women Create, Where Women Cook and Where Women Create Business, Jo Packham is a publishing powerhouse.

The first time I met Jo Packham, she gave me a passionate, “You can do this!” hug as I waited in line at Jo Ann’s fabrics. Ok, so it wasn’t Jo in the flesh, but that was the feeling I got when I first picked up the 2016 spring issue of her magazine, Where Women Create.

Mixed media and assemblage artist Rosemary Lebeau sat gracefully on the cover and I felt like a twitter-pated school girl as I flipped the pages. The velveted weight of the paper married with the crisp, inspiring photos; it was love at first sight. Each article felt so authentic, not the usual watered down and over edited version we usually get from other magazines (Thanks to this interview, I would later find out how Jo is able to capture the true essence of her subjects).

I quickly went home and began the long journey of carving out my own “creation space.” Something separate from the kids and the litter of laundry and housework that nips at my ankles. Distractions that often become the excuse for not connecting with my creative spirit and sticking through the messy, insecure hours my creating demands so I can triumphantly ship a finished product into the world.

When I met Jo for the second time, it was a response through LinkedIn. She instantly taught me the impact of replying with a personal note vs just pushing “connect”. To me, she is not only a creative powerhouse, she is in the business of building relationships in a way that supports success for everyone involved.

Questions:

Back in 2012 Karin Ulin entered a contest on www.dowhatyouloveforlife.com to win a subscription to your magazine, Where Women Create Business. She shared in her comments … “she didn’t have a clue when and where to start.” Women see someone like you who has been in the publishing business for over 30 years and they think, “I will never get to where Jo is!” Do you have any advice for women that are suffering from “failure to launch-itis”?

I believe 90% of the success is showing up. Do your homework. If you are a “stay at home mom” or someone like me who just simply decided she wanted to get into the publishing business, you need to do your homework. Find out what part of the game you want to be in, who or what your competition is… What is the best way to do this? How much money and time do you need to invest? What can you afford to do right now, so what you do is actually what you WANT to be doing and doesn’t become a failure because you are not doing enough or it is too expensive or too overwhelming, because you are doing too much.

Everyone is afraid to start small, but starting small and doing it right the first time is key. Like going on LinkedIn and writing a short message and making people feel like they are important. You can have success in each stage and not be overwhelmed by it, but you really have to do that homework first, then make a plan.  Then follow through the steps of that plan. Yes, of course one out of a hundred-million people will have success right out of the gate but it is like that famous folk tale or urban legend about Liberace, where the guy walks up to him and said, “I would give half my life to play like you do,” and he says, “ I did.” So you just have to do it. You actually have to show up and do the hard work. Then you have to take it one step at a time, because there are millions of great ideas out there but people are so overwhelmed and so afraid, that those ideas never see the light of day.

 

I think people are afraid to commit.

Absolutely! Life is so fluid these days and with the information highway, it is overwhelming! We compare ourselves to other people, like Ree Drummond who has 5 million followers; but they are not engaged followers. If you have 500 engaged followers that support you and  through them that support multiplies and grows, then you will have more engaged people than Ree does. My world is larger than some and smaller than others, but I know that there are 500 women out there that I could call and say, “You guys, I really need help with this. Will you help me?” About 95% of them would step up to the bat and say, “Sure! What do you need us to do?”  Where people with 5 million followers, 90% of those people don’t even read it!

 

That puts things into perspective. We have to bring ourselves back to reality in regard to our expectations and ask ourselves, “How tight and how strong is our circle?” and, “ Are we showing up for our followers or friends like we want them to show up for us?”

In our magazines, we have a formula where we feature one famous person, 3 well knowns and the rest are real people …they are just us. They have small studios, they cook in their kitchen, they started a tiny restaurant. At the end of the day, we get more comments and followers from those real people, because the people that THEY know are completely engaged!

 

We dismiss our power as a community and as individuals. I look at Joanna Gaines and I think, “Oh my goodness she is fantastic and fabulous!” But we have to watch ourselves and not put people on a pedestal… because when you do that, you give away your own power. Everyone has their own unique and special gifts. Joanna Gaines is fantastic… and we have our own fantastic-fabulousness we shouldn’t be afraid to put out there and share as well. You mentioned in a past interview that the people at the top feel isolated and alone, yet they are so eager to share their skills and what they’ve learned. I’d never thought of that before.

“You are surrounded by so many people and yet you are so alone. The higher up the food chain you are, the more isolating it gets.

 

Why don’t we build in networking and connecting as we go? Why don’t we build in freedom?

(Big pause for laughter from us both…Exasperated Laughter.) That is the million dollar question and I haven’t got a clue. Everyone is coming at you from all different directions and you feel obligated. When you are just starting out and are brand new, you are willing to try anything because you really don’t have anything to loose. But when you are at the top of the food chain, like Joanna Gaines for example, it is very different. There is much to loose if you make a mistake or the wrong decision. She has exploded: the show, the mill, the line of furniture, the silos, the B &B… and now she is quitting the show. Her PR access!…Even Oprah doesn’t do as well because of not having her show. You can get so overwhelmed with all of the opportunities. And yet your terrified to say no, and the people who surround you, don’t want you to say no, because you don’t know when it will all end and go away. Nothing lasts forever.

 

I hope we realize that we have no control over the future. That our job is to be present. If you show up for yourself in each moment, every day, that is really all you’ve got. Doing that, gives us back our power to say, “I’m good right here, right now,” like Johanna and Oprah have done. When I do things for others in a way that is not me, I don’t come off as authentic and I get burnt out. My writing and the things I produce don’t have that same sparkle or magic. The world needs magic now more than ever. We need people to show up as they truly are.

Which is why we let the people featured in our magazines write their own articles- and we don’t change them, for that reason! 40 years ago, when I first started my career; whatever publicity you could get, you took. I was creating a line of cross stitch booklets and Woman’s Day was the biggest, most prestigious craft magazine on the market. They wanted to feature craft designers for Christmas and asked if I wanted to be involved. I said, “Of course!” And they asked if I could send them a sample of my Christmas ornaments. I said, “Sure.” Then they called and said they didn’t like my Christmas ornaments and asked if they could make my ornaments for me because they had a different vision… I needed the publicity for the book, so I said I didn’t care. So, they made a series of ornaments for me. Then, they called me a few days before the photo shoot and asked if my “whole family” would be in the photo. I am divorced so there is my son, my daughter and myself. Woman’s Day said, “Well we need your ENTIRE family and we would like your ex-husband in the picture. My ex-husband and I are really close, so he came and did the shoot. Then, they asked me to write a letter to be published along side the ornaments and the family picture, with my signature on it.  So here was my article; with not my ornaments, not my family, and I try to tie it all together in this letter, sign it and they don’t let anybody proof it.

So here comes November and I can hardly stand it, I am so excited.  I go to the news stand to get a copy and I open it up to see the article with… Not my ornaments. A picture of Not my family. Not my letter and Not my signature! I immediately called the editor and said, “So what happened … exactly?!” She said, “Well, your letter didn’t say exactly what we wanted it to say because it needed to be about “not” your ornaments with the picture of “not” your family and we didn’t like the way you signed your name — so we changed it.”

That very day, 30 years ago, I promised myself, that if I ever owned my own magazine … the people that I featured, would actually get to BE the people that I featured. You can talk to anybody who has been written about in the press, I don’t care who it is or how famous they are; the first thing they say is, “Why would they choose THAT picture?! I hate that picture!” …and the second thing they say is, “I don’t know what I said that made them think I said that, but I didn’t say that!” So, I never wanted that to happen to anyone else if I ever had my own magazine.

 

My goodness, what a lesson! At the time, that was probably super crushing but, what a gift! I mean, what a gift to us, because you learned something that would (in the future) really help clarify everyone else’s personal message. I am sorry you had to go through that though! That’s awful!

At the time, I was crushed. But it set the trend for our very, very, successful magazine.

 

You have built a fantastic team around you. What are signs that women can look for in their growth to know it is time to hire help and how can we stay connected to what is important?

From my perspective, it is time to hire help when you are doing the things that you are NOT best at. For example, if you are a pie maker and everybody says you should open a pie shop and you wake up one morning and YOU aren’t the one making the pies. You’re the one hiring and paying the bills and worried about the ordering and you have hired someone else to make the pies…then you need to get back to what you are best at. #1, because you enjoy it more. #2 because you can do it better than anyone else — and you are faster! I can do the accounting in this office if I have to, but it will take me five hours to do what it would take my accountant a half hour. Whereas if he were trying to do a photo shoot, it would take him 2 days and I could do it in 20 minutes! I have alway found a way to get someone to help me that is doing what they are best at because everybody has their strengths.

 

I read on vintageimagecraft.com that you have a personal theme, “From a woman’s soul. Through a woman’s eyes. By a woman’s hands.” That is so beautiful! Is there a spiritual connection between who you are and what you create and do for a living, or are those two things separate?

I think they are very much entwined. I am not religious or go to church, but I do view myself as extremely spiritual. There are a lot of things I believe in; and I think that people who are good, honest, and hardworking are spiritual by nature. It is part of who they are. Whether they know it or not, it is the spiritual people who are the givers and are the kindest. They are always there and are task oriented. Because they get the job done… They’re the ones. I don’t think that you can’t ever separate the two, from my perspective.

 

How important is having a spiritual practice?  Do you have something everyday that you do to nurture your creative spirit? How do you stay connected to that feeling? 

You know, I don’t …and I do have a hard time, in the sense that you are talking about it. For me, reconnecting with spirituality…It’s like, having an interview with you and sharing what we have in common,  who we are and how we believe what we believe. THAT feeds my spiritual soul much more than meditating and sitting on the beach and thinking happy thoughts. That stuff doesn’t do anything for me. When I am down and need to feed my soul, I introduce myself to someone I have always wanted to know or I call one of the women we featured in the magazines. Or I will go back and read past issues because it is the people and the connection that gets me up in the morning and keeps me going and balanced so I don’t go off the edge. I think that creative people always stand on the edge. I think, by nature, we are always taking the leap…Sometimes that’s good, sometimes that’s not so good.

 

Sometimes, being on the edge is a scary place to be. But I feel like we have one hand reaching forward and one hand behind us. I also believe, spirituality and creativity are intertwined and that awareness in what I do, drives me forward… I feel like it is my responsibility to have my hand in back of me holding onto the person that is just one step behind me; helping them forward. I see you doing that. You’re  such an inspiration! You don’t take all your nuggets of wisdom and horde them away. You completely showcase everyone’s gifts and not put people in a box.  You are showing us all the variety of ways we can be ourselves out there – and I think that’s beautiful!

Thank you so much!

 

How do you know when it is time to throw in the towel and let go of a dream and when to fight for your vision and not give up?

I wish I knew! How do any of us know when we are close to the finish line or if we are just too stupid to quit? What drives me is that I have worked so hard and I may be so close and yet not see the finish line. If I quit, am I going to be sorry? So that keeps me going…I am not the one who has the answer to this question. If you find someone who does have the answer, let me know and I will feature them in the magazines!

 

What are your goals for 2018? 

I would like the magazines to keep selling really well. I want to sell a million magazines. I, of course want to pay my bills, but if I sell a million magazines and I feature you, then you are in front of a million people and have a million more opportunities. If I only sell 100,000 magazines, you are only in front of 100,000 people. We just entered this program/partnership with HSN (Home Shopping Network) Women Leadership Live, The American Dream Foundation, and Where Women Create Business we four companies are banding together to give new entrepreneurs a really viable, affordable opportunity to sell their products on HSN. They have 90 million viewers. It launched in our magazine this issue. This really will give entrepreneurs who have a product and a good idea, an opportunity to give it to the world without selling their soul or mortgaging their house. It is an amazing program where you can bring your idea to life without having to deal with investors who just care about the numbers and not the story behind the idea. People say to me, “I want to follow my dream so I mortgaged the house!…” In 20 minutes the dream is about to become a big nightmare. That dream can only come to life if you are careful about how you plan it and implement it.

 

Like you said in the beginning, little steps are ok! Show up every day and start small. Nothing happens overnight. We don’t have to go out in a blaze of glory in trying to get where we need to go!

It is a hard lesson to learn. I have had great ideas and I have also made some big mistakes. I was feeling sorry for myself until, one day, when I was on a tour of a vineyard …and the winery owner shared how he had to reinvent himself 11 times! “I didn’t reinvent myself because I got tired of what I was doing, but because I needed the money!” he said. It happens to everyone. We all make mistakes. So we have to be smart about our choices.

 

I read somewhere in an old interview that Jo once wanted a talk show, I brought this up and we discussed how amazing she would be, interviewing the little mom and pop shop owners; sharing their entrepreneurial stories with the world. An exciting thought. For now, Packham will continue encouraging us to make those smart choices like showing up and working hard for what we want. Spreading her creative magic with her magazines and cultivating opportunities on HSN for us women entrepreneurs. She leads the way; one hand, reached out behind her, to help us forward.

Laugh hard. Love strong. Live to serve.

Best!

Kimberly Crawford

Mind Bombs and Car Rides


This morning was a rare treat. I have this cousin that I can geek out with in regards to Spirituality. He is one of those special souls that is a true guide and seems to speak Truth when you need to hear it the most. (xoxo MJD)
We had a rare, quiet, moment and swapped funny stories about our lives over the phone. I was excited to share the mind bomb that Luke dropped on us 2 weeks ago. I hope you enjoy the story as much as  he did.
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On the way to school, Luke asked me, “Why do you think we are alive on Earth? What is our Purpose?”
Before I could answer, he blurted out, “Wait- Let me guess… we’re on Earth to learn by making the best choices…” [Insert Eye rolling here]
So – I asked why HE thought we were here…
He said, “Well, I think God has a God… And God is taking a test to show that he/she knows everything. We are the avatars… we’re in a video game – and are the avatars just thinking that we are making our own choices, but we aren’t! We are living out the many possibilities God has to prove he/she knows about to her God.” Luke was beaming at this point. As I am very rarely speechless. I was gobsmacked.
“Does our God’s God have a God?” I asked, still stupefied.
He was silent for a tick- “I assume so, yes.” Luke said as he looked out the passenger window.
“If we are God’s avatars, we are still God.” I stated as a question.
“Yes.” he replied.
“…Ok. Then why wouldn’t God build the game so we could never be aware of this?”
“That would take out more possibilities. Avatar awareness is like being on a higher level in the video game.”
My mind felt like crunchy grains of sand were careless dumped all over my not so tranquil grey matter. “But if WE are GOD, then we are God’s God too?” I asked. As I worked it out in my gritty brain, Luke smiled again, “…Fun, huh?”
With that, he and Jax, jumped out of the car and raced toward school. We flung kisses and professed our love for each other until we left each other’s line of sight.
Before I pulled out into traffic, I turned to Ziva, “Mind Blown. What about you?”
She just shrugged as if to say, “Eh, I’ve always known that stuff. How come you’ve forgotten?”
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I can only imagine some of the fantastic conversations happening in your cars on the way to school or on a road trip. Would love to hear some! What are some eye opening revelations you have experienced lately?
Laugh hard. Love strong. Live to serve.
Best!
Kimberly Crawford

Holidays and Super Heroes


“And the Grinch, with his Grinch-feet ice cold in the snow, stood puzzling and puzzling, how could it be so? It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store? What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more?”  — Dr. Seuss

Jax, Ziva and I are howling Christmas songs  while on our way to pick up Luke from school. We are waiting through a red light and Jax suddenly asked, “Did the Romans place Jesus on the cross, in the sunlight, so he could turn golden like he is on the cross at Grandad’s church?”

I mentally broke away from the shopping list I was preparing in my head and replied “No, Jaxi, the Romans didn’t intend to make him golden. But now that you mention it… because of their choice,  Jesus is golden to us.”

His 4 year old face was washed with concern and after a long pause he finally said, “ Well I wish Daddy was there so he could have fought those Romans with his sword and save Jesus!”

Ah, the innocence and wisdom of a 4 year old! How incredible is it that these little human beings look at the world and everyone in it as having the purist of intentions (making jesus golden like the sun) or to protect those that they love. Jax, feeling that his daddy was powerful enough to fight off Roman Soldiers as one man, and save Jesus.

I was amazed, again learning more from him than I could ever teach. I was also humbled. We are so Mighty to them. In their world we manifest food, home, all of their needs and most of their wants. Many of those wants are so simple. Our time; the opportunity to look us in the eyes when they are discussing the dynamics of how they think Santa squeezes down the chimney; the freedom to be themselves and not the reflection of what we hope others will see them to be; compassion, hoping as parents, we remember how frustrating it was to learn how to tie our shoe or how painful it is to have an ear ache.

My moment with Jax reminded me that kids think their parents are Super-Heroes and that our mission is to champion FOR them and not fight at them or against them.

My wish for you this New Year is to be in the Present and enjoy everyone around you. Be the Super-hero your kids believe you are and Choose Happiness.

Laugh Hard. Love Strong. Live to Serve.

Kimberly Crawford