Choose Happiness

I sometimes get caught up in the push and pull of life. The demands that I put on myself and, in-turn, exert onto my family; my kids.

As I run around the dinner table, cleaning, serving… anything other than eating, I wonder why my kids aren’t sitting still to eat their dinner…. Duh, why would they if I’m not?

Tonight, Luke had an especially hard time transitioning to bed. He said, “I am so unhappy Mommy. You never let me DO anything!” He dove his head into the pillow,  bursting into tears.

Wow. I dropped everything to sit on the edge of his bed. “Lets talk, okay?” Luke’s bleary-eyed face slid out from under the pillow, “Okay.”

“Listen,” I said, “I believe the Universe gives us energy. We get to CHOOSE what we do with it. So, that means we have a choice to be happy or sad.”

“But being happy is SO hard!” Luke whined. I thought to myself, he can’t be serious?! He’s a 5-year-old kid who has almost everything he has ever asked for (…hey we don’t have room for a pony, sue me.)

We sat in his room and practiced being happy. Smiling like crazed lunatics on a Skittles high.

Finally ready to rest his head on the pillow, we said our blessings and told God that we chose to use the energy provided to us for happiness.

What a HUGE concept for an adult let alone a 5-year-old boy!

So I ask you, Do you think that happiness is a choice? Or is it dictated by the external influences of your day? Do you think “happiness” something you can teach?

Laugh hard. Love strong. Live to serve.


Kimberly Crawford

11 thoughts on “Choose Happiness

  1. If happiness was dictated by external influences, CNN alone would kill off the population, not to mention some of the people we all work with every day 😉 Another great post. Keep ’em coming!


  2. What a wonderful concept to post about — I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts. And your little boy sounds so cute! I can picture you two laughing — priceless. 🙂

    To answer your question, yes, I do believe that happiness can be taught. If only in the teaching we do when we’re not trying. Children are like sponges, and absorb almost every minute detail about their parents: what they say, what they wear, what they do, what they eat, how they interact with others — so yes. Those times are “teaching” moments, and in those moments, if you are happy, then your child can learn to be happy too.

    But also, I think when you pass a certain age — it is much more difficult to “teach” happiness. You can guide, suggest, model, but if your audience is not paying attention or too caught up in their own problems and concerns, well, it can seem like the answer is, “no.”

    I still think in those times, you can “share” happiness. If you do something silly, like you did, you can break right through that sad shell and literally hand over a share of your happiness. Lovely post.


    • Melissa,
      Thanks so much for your comments; I totally agree. Now is the time to teach our wee ones, through actions and conversations. Like you said, as they grow up, those “teaching moments” become more layered. Though I am not there yet, (My oldest is 6) I would expect that those moments are fine tuning the basic lessons of life and the foundations have already been laid.

      I have really enjoyed your blog. Now that we are done with our journey of house hunting. I am now able to lay down roots and return to blogging as well. Look forward to connecting with you again. Best!-KC


  3. Hi Kim, like this post very much. I think choosing happiness is one of the greatest lessons in life…way to teach them early! Met you today at TJ. I like your thoughtful writing. Looking forward to more posts!



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